Turn and face the strange
Going through changes can be extremely difficult for many of us and can cause a lot of stress and sleepless nights. An unexpected serious change in your career or business is often considered as something ‘to get over’ or ‘ to get used to’ at some point, however, at times all that is required is simply being able to quickly adapt to the new situation. It can save us a lot of nerves! If nothing depends on us and we have to accept the changes… we have to accept them and adapt. Move on. Changes can even be very positive, but still cause distress and anxiety in some people. Us, humans, like to feel comfortable and aware of the surroundings. We dislike it when things change as we find ourselves in new roles, places and burdened with new responsibilities. Of course, it is safe to just sit at the same desk and do the same repetitive job for years! It is unbelievable how many people are scared of change. Even clever and relatively successful people. But changes DO happen and none of us can purchase an insurance policy for it.
Understanding that pretty much anything can happen in this life is step 1. We can get sacked as well as get promoted; we may have to learn to work for a new boss or become responsible for a team of a hundred people; we might even find ourselves doing a job we know nothing about or running for president – saying “it will never happen” is silly. Because things do sometimes change.
Dealing with changes, especially negative ones is often hard but not impossible. Step 2 is being prepared for things going not according to plan. Not being worried or waiting for it, but not losing your head if something does happen. Getting paranoid and stocking food in anticipation of the end of the world is not what I am talking about here:). Prepare for the worst but hope for the best – in the end of the day, the worst is most likely not going to happen, however, having some cash saved up in case you find yourself without a job for a couple of months has never harmed anyone.
Step 3 is taking yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes. Doing things that you do not normally do or things you are even scared of doing is a good way to exercise you ‘adaptation muscle’. Going to new places, trying new things, meeting new people and educating yourself on subjects that may seem irrelevant can play a significant role in being able to quickly adapt to life changing experiences. When you are used to maneuvering, thinking fast and doing things you are not used to be doing, you are more likely to go through any changes rather easily. Especially minor ones! You won’t even notice them!
Loving a good challenge is a fantastic way of dealing with changes too. Step 4 is becoming competitive. Playing card games and doing sports helps a lot here:). When you accept the challenge, you get focused and willing to solve the problem. You don’t fear change, but you are ready to concentrate and win the battle, where the battle is actually with yourself..
Step 5 is not being scared and not feeling intimidated. Life is fantastic and even bad things usually lead to something really good. We may not know what it is yet, but just think how many times has it happened that you looked back on something in the past and realized that it was for the best.
Change is progress and change is motivation. Willing to accept changes, adapt and move forward is what keeps us going. Being stuck in the same place doing the same things every day will never let us develop and become a better version of ourselves. The flow of life IS change. Being flexible and adapting to new situations quickly allows you to follow that flow and avoid confusion and anxiety.
It doesn’t mean that we don’t have to resist negative change if we CAN do it! It only means that when there is nothing you can do to influence the situation and you are forced to face the changes that don’t depend on you; there is no point stressing out about it! Doing your best in any given situation is key. And sometimes being able to adapt and keep going is the best you can do.