It is amazing how many of us keep buying and reading all the motivational books, sharing quotes on our social media, thinking that we are learning and doing our best to succeed. But is that so? How many of us actually follow the advice given by all those top coaches and entrepreneurs? How many of us actually put into practice the knowledge we are getting from books, internet and private coaching sessions? Alternatively, maybe we are just used to spending our time looking for relevant sources, eagerly reading/listening to what is being said and then we forget all about it until we come across another resonating note? We share a quote that resembles our mood for today or our beliefs or, what’s worse, the beliefs of those who are trying to make us believe. Believe that we are going to make it. Believe that we are going to get to the top. Believe that we are worth it. We share those quotes and articles, and then our friends share them with their friends, and then the friends of our friends share them etc… How many of those involved in this chain reaction do something with their lives because of those quotes? Or somebody’s motivational speech? We think we understand it all and we will gladly teach our “loser-friends” what life is all about, tutor them and encourage them, tell them they are naughty when they argue and disagree. But do we follow our own advice? Or is it all just pretense? Do we ‘think’ that this is us or is it ‘really’ us?
There is an incredible number of articles, books, major research works and blog posts about motivation. We all need encouragement from time to time and we crave the sacred knowledge of being successful no matter what; being able to stay calm and at peace even when things go terribly wrong. Fantastic life coaches change lives for the better every day giving that reassurance and boosting self-esteem and confidence for those of us who happened to lose their ground for a moment. And yet, how many people feel great during their sessions or shortly afterwards, but after a few months’ time they go back to their old ways? Unfortunately, some do.
So. How do you put into practice all the things you learn about motivation and how to change your life? I am no guru but I combined a few very simple ideas on the subject to help others (and myself) not to forget all the ‘nutritious’ stuff and start using your knowledge on a day-to-day basis.
Post-it notes. Yes, yes, those little colourful sticky pieces of paper that all those who have ever worked in an office environment came to hate. Write down your favourite quotes on them and put them around your house. Don’t rely on Facebook for it – how often do you actually scroll down your own timeline? Post-it notes in unexpected places attract attention.
Create lists for yourself. A list of your advantages. A list of things you want to have. A list of your qualities you want to change. Any list depending on what you are working on. Same as post-it notes – place your lists where you are going to see them. And change their location every few days so you don’t get used to looking at them and not seeing them. Cross out the things you’ve done/achieved/got rid of/changed your mind about.
Diary. Start a simple diary. Even if you write a couple of sentences every day, this is going to work really well. Try to write down mainly the good stuff about your day. However, negative experiences teach us a lot, so don’t dismiss those completely. Find the positives in any negatives. It’s possible, even when things go terribly wrong.
Stop telling people what to do. Each time you want to teach someone something, stop right there. Make sure what you are about to say correlates with your own life first. And don’t go any further regardless of your answer, unless somebody truly wants your opinion and a piece of advice.
Throw anchors. Each time you are happy, do your best to remember the moment. Try to notice everything around you and feel it with your skin. Come back to your anchors when feeling down.
Affirmations. They work, believe me. And the more idiotic they sound to you – the better. Just keep reminding yourself, that you are a completely unique individual and you are here for a reason. If you don’t know what that reason is, make it your goal to find it. Keep telling yourself that you are not only Going to make it, but Already making it! You are living, so it’s already happening.
Enjoy the process of personal growth. Don’t focus on the end result but on the steps you are taking!
Talk to positive people more. Bounce ideas and experiences, learn from others, exchange positive vibes and learn to really take in what they are all about.
Never give up. Motivation is something that only you can create for yourself. If you really want something and if you are really determined to achieve it, you will. Motivation is something that can’t be faked, so be true to yourself and make sure that you really want what you are trying to get. If you do, you’ll get there. If you don’t, the likelihood is that you may not. Find your true goals and things that matter to you.
Be brave. We all fall down from time to time and we all make mistakes. That is only one of the necessary learning curves – falling down in order to get up again